Reflections on Being Different & Being Bulllied
Meshell Ndegeocello, poet, musician, and funky bass player
“… when I look back, it is still a little painful. When I think about being a teenager, I don’t usually feel nostalgic. But I don’t have to feel bad about how I made someone else feel ashamed or unwanted. Despite how painful it was to earn it, I cherish the wisdom I have about accepting myself and other people, all kinds of people, for who they are. When I make a friend now, I make sure they know that I don’t care if they are weird, or popular, or straight, or pretty, or black, or like me, or different. I just want them to know that I like them, that I am their friend, and I mean it.”
- Meshell Ndegeocello in It Gets Better
These resources have been selected as part of the Library's contribution to citizenU – a project to combat racism and bullying and eliminate discrimination based on:
- Sexual orientation
- Socioeconomic circumstances
- Social groupings
citizenU also strives to build stronger, more positive relationships among Vancouver's diverse communities.
citizenU is a joint program of the City of Vancouver, the Vancouver School Board, the Vancouver Park Board, the Vancouver Public Library, and other government agencies and community organizations.
Books to Get You Started
Addresses prevention, intervention and reconciliation, helping others to recognize the warning signs of emotional distress and offering techniques for dealing with bullies (who also need help).
"The writing is fresh, interesting, and straight to the point … easy-to-read and comprehensive text urges all readers, whether young, old, or reluctant, to become informed about cultural groups in an effort to reduce the racial strife and intolerance that exists in society." (Voya)
In response to a number of tragic suicides by LGBTQ students, Dan Savage uploaded a video to YouTube with his partner, Terry Miller. Their video launched the "It Gets Better Project" YouTube channel and initiated a worldwide phenomenon. This companion book is a collection of original essays and testimonials written to teens from celebrities.
Plenty of practical details for teens who want to become activists. The issues presented encompass everything from civil liberties, racism, women's rights, to gay rights. In compelling sidebars, teens speak out about their activism and, sometimes, about the harassment they experienced because of it.
In 26 first-person stories, teens write about their lives and peer pressure with searing honesty. Their essays will inspire young readers to reflect on their own lives, work through their problems, and give them the courage to be themselves.
"Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes."
Still one of the best film explorations of race and the effects of hatred. Set in Los Angeles during a 48-hour period, Crash features an extraordinary screenplay, great cast, and superb direction by Canadian Paul Haggis. Winner of three Oscars: Best Picture, Best Original Screenplay and Best Editing.
An extremely moving and heartfelt autoethnographic film from Vancouverite Gwen Haworth that documents her transition from male to female. Includes interviews with all the members of her extended family, reflections on undergoing her operation, plus some amazing animation, lots of laughter and a few tears. A must-see film.
A superb documentary that tells the story of how years of oppression led to the Stonewall uprising in 1969. As one commentator points out, the Stonewall riots marked the first time during the turbulent '60s that protestors forced the police to retreat. This overt display of '60s people power changed the gay community forever. A must-see film in order to understand the roots of homophobia and how social change is made.
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